Saturday, 29 February 2020

The Six Realms

by Jetsunma Tenzin Palmo

Many of you, I'm sure, have seen thangkas of the "Wheel of Life." For those of you who haven't, they depict a big wheel held in the jaws of Yama, the Lord of Death. On the outer rim are the twelve links of interdependent origination. Inside that are the six realms of existence, and at the hub are three animals — a cock, a pig and a snake, each biting the tail of the one in front. They make up the inner circle. The cock represents greed, the snake anger, and the pig ignorance. According to Buddhist psychology, it is these three negative emotions which keep the wheel of samsara turning. It's our underlying ignorance about how things really are which projects greed and anger. In other words, the "I want" and the "I don't want" which govern the way we live. We spend our lives trying to get what pleases us and to avoid the things we don't like. These are the motivating forces which keep us chained to the wheel.

At the very bottom of the picture, you will see the depiction of the hell realms. Of course, nowadays many people don't believe in hell realms. Ironically, they still believe in heaven but consider the hell realms to be pure fantasy! I have my own views about this. As I was brought up a spiritualist, I feel at ease with a belief in other realms of being outside of this concrete material realm. But anyway, even in Buddhism, the hell realms are not necessarily considered to be physical places. In the Bodkicharyavatara, Shantideva says, "Who made the red-hot iron floors? Who made the demons tormenting the beings? All this is a projection of the perverted mind." Even if we don't believe in the physical reality of the hell realms, we can definitely believe that a mind filled with anger, which loves harming others and takes pleasure in cruelty, could easily project a paranoid environment for itself. The Buddhist belief is that after we pass on to other realms and lose the physical support which keeps us grounded here, the content of our inner mind is projected outward and becomes our entire reality. We already project quite a bit on this plane, but the extent of our projection increases once we lose our physical base. So if the mind is already filled with anger and sadistic pleasure in others' pain, that state of mind will be projected outwards and the person involved in it will respond in a paranoid way. We can get some understanding of hell realms right here and now. We all know people who are physically located in hell realms, such as those living in war zones. There are also people suffering from incurable and painful sicknesses, people in prisons, and people in asylums for the mentally ill who are tormented by their own paranoid fantasies. We know people living with partners who are extremely abusive and children living with abusive parents. These are the hell realms we all know about right here.

One of the big problems with hell realms is that the suffering is so intense that we become completely engulfed by it, rendering us incapable of action. For this reason, it is very difficult to break free. That's why so many women who live with abusive husbands can't break away. They're completely trapped in the relationship. There is a story of the Lord Buddha in one of his past lives. In this life, for some reason, although he was already a bodhisattva, he was reborn in hell and had to drag a very heavy chariot backwards and forwards. There was another person beside him, and they were yoked together. They had to carry this heavy chariot back and forth over red-hot pavement. There were guards on either side whipping them if they flagged. At one point, the Bodhisattva's companion collapsed. They were both very tired and weak because this goes on practically for eternity. Anyway, the Bodhisattva said, "You rest a while. I will carry this all by myself," because he felt so sorry for his friend. He said to the guards, "Let him rest a bit. I will carry it alone." The guards replied, "You can't do that. You're all the heirs to your own karma," and they hit him with a big iron-spiked ball. At that moment he died and was reborn in heaven.

This instant death and rebirth occurred because in that very painful, paranoid situation, it is almost impossible to generate a thought for the welfare of others, and yet the Bodhisattva managed to do so. For this reason he died and was immediately reborn in heaven. Hell is self-perpetuating and this is why it is so difficult to get out of it and why it is traditionally considered, although not eternal, to last for so long. He 11-beings are entrapped by their own paranoia. We can see this in our everyday lives. We can see this in people who are caught in deep depressions or in schizophrenia or paranoia.

The next is the realm of the preta, the hungry ghosts, or unsatisfied spirits. These are traditionally shown as beings roaming the surface of the earth, invisible to ordinary humans. They are usually shown with huge empty stomachs and very thin necks. It is said that even if they manage to get a morsel of food, it can hardly pass down this hair thin neck. Even if the food manages to pass through the neck, the stomach is like a mountain. So a morsel of food is of little benefit to them. Others may be able to drink or eat, but the water they drink turns into pus or fire, and their food turns into disgusting, indigestible substances. In other words, they are always being tortured by their intense hunger and their longing for food and water. This is considered to be the result of stinginess. The Buddha said that if people only knew the results of giving, they would give continually. Even more so if they understood the results of not giving! We can also see hungry ghosts in our everyday lives. There are people who, no matter how much they have, inwardly always feel poor. They are perpetually looking to see what others have. Not only are they always wanting more and more, but they find it very difficult to give anything away unless they happen not to want it. It's very easy to give away something we don't want, like last year's fashions. It's much more difficult to give away something we like and value.

When I was very young, there was a man living opposite our house. The windows in his room were completely black because he hadn't cleaned them for probably about thirty or forty years. He shuffled around in rags. His room was absolutely bare, filthy, and very dark. He was a gentle person, but he was angry with his relatives. He hated them. He said he didn't want his relatives to have the pleasure of seeing him enjoy anything. It was a very convoluted way of thinking. When he died, they found stacks and stacks of shirts and suits still in their plastic wrappings and thousands of pound notes. These were concealed inside chairs, under the bed, under the floorboards, everywhere. Of course the moment he died, his family descended and took it all away. One could imagine that because of his inability to enjoy his own wealth or to share it with others, he might stay around the room as a kind of ghost haunting the place.

Sharing is very important. It is the opposite of a hungry ghost mentality. It's noticeable in Buddhist countries that the people who give the most to charities, who give the most offerings to the monks and nuns on alms rounds in the morning and so on, are the poor people, or the emerging middle class. The people who do not give are the more established middle class and the wealthy, unless they give as a big show, inviting everybody along to rejoice in their merit. We should be very careful to avoid miserliness. We need to learn to open up the heart and be able to give wherever we see a need. This includes even little things. Not just material things, but smiles, a nice word, time to listen, sometimes just being there for others. This is giving, having a generous heart and not always thinking, "What can I get out of it? What's in it for me? If I give that, then I won't have it for myself."

The third realm is the animal realm. According to Buddhist theory, this realm is characterised by basic stupidity. I think this is a little unfair to animals. I don't think animals are as stupid as all that, but they do lack a certain quality of self-knowing. They can't stand back and look at situations objectively. They always become very subjectively involved in whatever they're doing. Their biggest concern is getting something to eat. Have you ever noticed how much time animals spend just eating and looking for food They also spend a lot of time sleeping and trying to keep themselves warm and comfortable. Their other great preoccupation is procreation. This is not so different from many human lives, if you think about it.

Unless we develop the mind, we are not much better than animals ourselves. There are people who are totally concerned with their instincts, their pleasures, and making themselves comfortable. There are so many people who don't even try to develop the mind, who don't try to think, discriminate, or analyse. They go along with the crowd, creating pleasant situations and avoiding painful ones, just like animals. Many of us are pretty much like that. How to be comfortable? How to keep ourselves warm but not too warm; cool, but not too cool? Comfortably fed. Nicely clothed. Everything comfortable. We are basically animals unless we develop that part of ourselves which is distinctly human, by which I mean the mind. Animals think too, but they are not capable of creative thinking. The potential to use the mind creatively is the main thing distinguishing humans from beings in the animal realm.

The next segment on the wheel is humans, but we'll come to those last. The one after that is the realm of what are called the ashuras.. These are demi-gods. The demi-god realm and the god realms are iconographically depicted one above the other from the grossest to the most sublime. Just below the grossest of the god realms is the realm of the ashuras. They're also very beautiful, like the gods. Many of the female ashuras are captured by the gods. I haven't noticed male ashuras being captured by female goddesses, but anyway, the ladies are taken up from time to time. The main problem for the ashuras is the wish-fulfilling tree. The roots and the trunk of this tree are in the realm of the ashuras, so the tree gets all its nourishment from the ashura soil. However, the branches, and therefore the fruit of the tree, are in the realm of the gods. Consequently the ashuras are devoured by jealousy. They cannot appreciate all the good things they already have, and they do have good things because they are demi-gods. They could lead perfectly happy lives. But they do not permit themselves happiness because they are consumed by this competition against the gods to try to regain the fruit of this tree which they believe is rightfully theirs. And so they're always at war — the titans against the gods. 

We can see this very easily in our own realm in the psychological patterns of people who already have more than enough. Because there's always someone who has more, they can't ever appreciate what they have. They're always consumed with envy for those who have more than they do, who have higher promotions or bigger houses or bigger cars, a larger income, or whatever. We can also see this happening in big business. I think many businessmen will be reborn as ashuras because they are always organising takeovers and all kinds of deals. This is the mentality that is never satisfied. All of us slip into this ashura mentality sometimes. Whatever we have is just not enough. If we had what somebody else has, we would be happy. But even if we get it, of course it's not enough, because somebody else has even more — a newer model or a bigger one, or something like that. This kind of mindset torments many people, yet today it is considered a good thing, because it is the basis of our consumer society. We have to keep consuming. The only way to keep us consuming is to generate all these artificial needs, and the way to generate artificial needs is to point out that other people have these things and look how happy they are! All the advertisements assure us that if we had a bigger car or better clothes or a better brand of whiskey, we would be sublimely happy. Of course there's a part of us that knows this is not true. But another part of us is under such pressure to believe the myth that we tend to go along with it anyway. Our whole society is very much based on this ashura mental' ity of competition for material goods.

Recently I was staying in Singapore. In some ways, Singapore is sort of a god realm, but it's also very much an ashura realm because the whole society is based on competition. It's a very small island off the Malaysian peninsula, and it does not have any land to cultivate. It doesn't have any resources of its own. It's basically a small city-state. So it relies totally on trade and commerce, and this creates a sense of instability, because it knows that if for some reason business went elsewhere, its economy would collapse. No matter how successful they are economically, you will always hear people saying, "Yes, but Taiwan is doing better," or, "Malaysia is catching up with us." One day, I was driving with a Chinese friend who had a white Mercedes. We parked it, and when we came back there were eight white Mercedes all in a row. Everybody has white Mercedes because without one you're nothing. Unless, of course, you have an olive-green Rover, which is the second choice. Everybody seems to have three jobs. Meanwhile, children are committing suicide because they can't stand the pressure. This is very much the ashura mentality of competition, insecurity, fear, and resentment. The Singaporeans themselves are very nice people, but nowadays the whole structure of their society is geared towards this extremely stressful way of living. Yet at the time I was there, the government found themselves at the end of the fiscal year with a surplus of millions and millions of dollars, which they didn't know what to do with. What a problem! "What should we do with all these millions of dollars," they cried. And still they said, "That's very good, but we must not rest on our laurels. We must do even better next year because Taiwan is catching up."

At the top is the realm of the devas. This word is sometimes translated as "god," but deva literally means "a shining one," a being of light. It is related in the sutras that in the middle of the night, devas would often come and light up the grove where the Buddha was sitting and ask him questions. In Buddhist cosmology there are twenty-six different heavens. So no one can say that Buddhism is pessimistic. We have many more happy realms than miserable realms, actually! The heavenly realms begin with the grossest. The descriptions are written from the male point of view, so there are beautiful young gods with lots of lovely pink-footed nymphs serving them — every man's fantasy! Everything you wish for just appears spontaneously. The branches and fruits of the wish-fulfilling tree are located in the lower realm of the gods. This is a bit like the Californian life-style, I always think. Beautiful homes, beautiful cars, beautiful children, hopefully beautiful bodies, everybody doing yoga or tai chi, everybody on healthful diets, everybody thinking positive thoughts.

Above this there are many levels, each more rarefied and more refined than the one below. Finally, we come to the realms that are the result of advanced meditational abilities. They correspond to various meditational levels. In those realms the gods are androgynous, neither male nor female. After this there are the formless realms, which correspond to the formless attainments like infinite space, infinite consciousness, neither perception nor nonperception, and so on. But however rarefied these states become, they are still within the realm of birth and death. However long we stay there, the karma which created the causes for rebirth there will eventually be exhausted, and we will have to descend again.

From the Buddhist viewpoint, the heavenly realms are not considered such good places to be reborn. Life is so pleasurable there that we have very little motivation to make spiritual progress. Instead, we just use up our good karma, which means that eventually we're left with only the bad. We saw that in the lower realms, there's too much misery for beings to think about spiritual progress, but in the higher realms, there's too much happiness. Both realms present equal impediments to spiritual growth.

California is like the deva realm. Many Tibetans who come here from India are convinced of this. But of course any realm which is wholly focused on youth, beauty, joy, and light is very fragile because life isn't all youth, beauty, joy, and light. Those who deny the shadow are in a very insecure and precarious position. To be exclusively in a deva realm and not recognise its precarious nature is a form of gross self-delusion. I remember a very nice lady from California who was a yoga teacher and a masseuse. When I first met her she was in her fifties, but she looked very youthful because she ate all the right things and did all the right kinds of exercise. She came to Nepal and was always talking about joy, love, and light. One lama used to call her the Bliss Cloud. Then she got sick. Everybody gets sick in Nepal. That brought her down from her cloud. Then she began to develop genuine compassion. It is hard to develop true compassion when you are continually blocking out all suffering from your own life.

From a Buddhist point of view, the best rebirth we can possibly have within samsara itself is the human realm, because we have this unique combination of joy and sorrow. We are able to see things much more clearly, and we have the motivation to go beyond all of it. What is more, in the human realm we have choice. We can choose how we will act, how we will speak, and how we will think. We are in training. Because of actions we have performed with body, speech, and mind in this and in past lives, we do not have much control over most of the circumstances which occur in this lifetime. But we can control our response to those circumstances, and in that lies our freedom. We can respond with negative roots or with positive roots. If someone shouts at us, we can shout back or we can try to deal with the situation more skillfully. If someone is angry with us, we have choice. We can be angry in return or we can try to bring some understanding and patience into the situation. If we respond positively, we will attract more positive occurrences into our life. If we always respond negatively, we will create more and more negativity. According to whether we respond skillfully or unskillfully, we create our own future from one moment to the next. It's up to us. We are not computers. We are not completely programmed.

The main purpose of meditation is to create self-knowing and awareness so we can break through our patterning and respond with more openness, clarity, and understanding. Meditation is not just to make us feel peaceful; that's just the basis for further progress. Meditation is about arousing self-knowledge. Once we know ourselves, we can understand others. When we understand others, we can put an end to suffering. We can respond to everything with great skill. We can respond to others with respect and compassion. In this lies the importance of the human realm. This is our great opportunity. If we waste it, it might be a long time before we get it back again. It's here and now. It's not just in sitting, it's in everyday life, in everybody we meet, in every circumstance. It is up to us whether we act with awareness or with delusion. It is up to us whether we create further suffering for ourselves and for others or whether we gradually release this and create positive circumstances. That's what the Buddhist path is about — helping us to make the best of the opportunity that is our human life, not just when we're sitting on our meditation seats or visiting Dharma centers, but the whole of our human life, with all our relationships, our work, our social life, everything. All of it is within the province of Dharma practice. We really must not waste this chance.

It is first important to clearly understand, through study, what is involved in meditation. There are many aspects of Buddhist teaching and practice, but when we begin to meditate, we should concentrate on one particular aspect. If we jump from practice to practice we will never progress. Instead, we should choose a particular meditation practice and concentrate on that, doing our other commitments rather quickly and spending most of our time on the principal practice. If we constantly change our practice after becoming dissatisfied this will become habitual, we will never accomplish our aim and in the process will waste considerable time. Having chosen a practice and begun meditation, difficulties will arise, but at that time we must make additional effort and not simply abandon our practice. If we persevere, we will become accustomed to the practice and it will become easier. It is also possible that occasionally we may become confused about our object of meditation. Having initially made some progress, interferences set in and it all begins to seem fruitless. Here again, we must apply additional effort and carry on.

-- Geshe Rabten Rinpoche

Friday, 28 February 2020

学会宽容

文|阿莲

有个关于仇恨袋的传说:一个人怒气冲冲地走在路上,被一只立在路中央的袋子挡了去路,这人就推了袋子一下,要它让开道路,结果袋子没有移动一分,反而涨了起来。这人很生气,就又打了袋子一拳,袋子又涨大了一些。这人就更生气了,干脆抬起脚来狠狠踢了袋子一脚,这个袋子更加涨大了,结果把路全部堵死了。最后佛出现在这个人的面前,告诉他这叫仇恨袋,人越是理会计较它,它就会变得越强大,相反,如果人不理会它,或者绕开它, 就会什么阻碍都没有了。 

可见,当一个人的心里充满报复和仇恨时,他的心灵就会被乌云遮蔽,他的人生之路也就无法前行。古话说:世上不如意者十之八九。其意就是说生活没有一帆风顺的,人都有因为各种原因而产生的烦恼, 而这些烦恼如果处理不当或者太过斤斤计较,往往就会因怨生恨,而任其发展下去,结果恐怕都是我们不愿看到或者接受的糟糕和不幸。 

电视台播放了一期节目,名字叫“都是小狗惹的祸”。内容是一个姓朱的人养的几只小狗被人偷了,但是,后来他在一家网上宠物交易站,发现了那只小狗的照片,于是报了警,而警察最后抓到偷狗的人,原来是网上卖狗的秦某和她的儿子。最后秦某和儿子被判坐牢三年。 

这个结果连我都感到惊奇。后来了解了实情才知道,秦某偷的这只狗叫做“古代牧羊犬”,三条狗市值人民币一万九千元。起初秦某偷狗的动机,并不是为了卖钱,她只是为了出一口怒气。原来她在偷狗的前两天花了两千多元钱,从朱某手中买了一只古代牧羊犬,但是回到家中才发现这只小狗有皮肤病,于是就打电话给朱某想退调,但是遭到了朱某的拒绝,秦某想到自己花了高价却买回一条病狗,而且还不能退调,她真是越想越生气,于是萌生了一个报复朱某的念头:把朱某家剩余的那三只狗都给偷走,让朱某财物两空。后来她真的就拉着自己的儿子,在第三天晚上到朱某的家中偷走了小狗。 

仅仅是为出一口怨气,仅仅是偷了三只小狗,却落得三年的牢狱之灾!秦某在听到宣判的时候,她呼天抢地泪如雨下,连她自己也认为“太不值了”! 

是啊!谁看了这样的结果,都会替这对母子感到“冤”呢! 

生活之中,人与人相互发生社会关系,总会发生一些摩擦,也难免产生一些误会和怨恨,这种情况下,人往往不知道学会控制自己的情绪,任凭着怒气,冲动地做出一些不理智的行为,最后让自己后悔莫及。所以正如节目主持人总结的那样:如果秦某在协调不果的情况下,能够忍住怒气,带小狗去宠物医院进行治疗;如果朱某能够退让一步,同意调换一只小狗...... 大家都宽容一点,事情肯定就会是 一种结局了。所以说人要在生活中学会宽容,宽容是福。 

孔子在《论语》中也强调一个“恕”字,所谓“恕”是忠恕—宽容之意,孔子说这是为人必须学会的。在《论语 • 卫灵公》中,子贡问孔子:“有一言而可以终身行之者乎?”孔子回答:“其恕乎? 己所不欲,勿施于人。”其大意可以解释为子贡问有没有一个字可以终身行之的呢?孔子回答说:大概只有一个“恕”字吧!宽恕别人,他人对自己做了不愿意接受的事情,自己明知道连自己都无法接受,那就不要再把它施加给别人了。 

谁都不喜欢仇恨和报复的心理,但是当人受到伤害或被欺负的时候,却很容易产生这种心理,并希望对方受到同样的伤害或者损失,藉此来达到自己心理上的平衡。但是,一个人倘若心存报复,自己所受的伤害就会比对方还大。报复会把一个好端端的人驱向疯狂的边缘,报复还会把无罪推向有罪。许多心理学专家的研究证实,报复心理非常有碍健康,高血压、心脏病、胃溃疡、抑郁症等疾病就是长期积怨和过度紧张造成的。有一位女演员失恋后,怨恨和报复心使她的面容变得僵硬而阴沉,她去找最有名气的化妆师为她美容。化妆师衷肯的告诉这位演员:“你如果不消除心中的怨恨,任何化妆师都无法让你美丽起来。” 

对于曾经受过的伤害不能够宽容,那么你会永远被禁锢在那种伤害里。德国有句谚语说:“最大的报仇就宽恕的念头。”著名的法国思想家卢梭说过:“忍耐是痛苦的,但它结出的果实是甜美的。”作家莎士比亚也说过:“宽恕别人所不能宽恕的,这是一种高贵的行为。” 

在元人吴亮所著的《忍经》中有一段这样的文章:驰马碎宝,醉烧金帛,裴不谴吏,羊不罪客。司马行酒,曳遐坠地。推床脱帻,谢不嗔系。诉事呼如周,宗周不以讳。盖小人之事大多忤,贵之视贱多怒。古之君子,盛德弘度,人有不及,可以情恕。噫,可不忍欤! 

文章中所说的是这样几件事:小吏骑马时不小心摔坏了马背上珍贵的马鞍,但裴行俭并未加罪于小吏。羊侃请客时,客人喝醉酒误把羊侃的金帛烧了,可羊侃并没有因此怪罪客人。有个叫司马的人劝酒拉倒了裴遐,裴遐跌倒于地而没有发怒。谢安被人从座位上推下来,弄掉了头巾,但他没有因此怪罪蔡系。有人上诉时直呼宗如周的名字,宗如周也不以为意。最后,作者这样总结道:小人物侍奉大人物时总会有意外,高贵的人对待卑贱的人也常常会生气。如果大人物能为人宽宏大度,善解他人,那么他就拥有君子的品行了。请忍住心中的不满,原谅别人的过失,与人为善吧! 

别人无心做错了事,违背了你的心愿,打乱了你的计划,但你要以他是无意的来对待,并且不去计较他的过失,这才是一个君子应该具备的优良品质。如果不能因此忍受别人的过失,而大发雷霆,这只能加剧对方的恐惧或者害怕心理,事情则只会是越办越糟。所以说,能够善待别人的过失,给予他人理解和自尊,帮助他人从过错之中走出来,这个人才能同样得到别人的尊重和信任。 

要以理解的眼光看别人,要懂得大千世界是五彩缤纷的,人也是各种各样的,都有自己的个性和特点,都有不同的长处和短处,我们不能像要求自己那样要求别人。宽容别人的过错,明白世上没有十全十美的人,包括自己在内,谁都有缺点 ,谁都有可能犯错误,要给别人改正错误的机会。 

有人给宽容一个十分美丽的比喻:一只脚踩扁了紫罗兰,它却把香味留在那脚跟上,这就是宽容。 

仔细想一想,我们常常在心里计较这个,埋怨那个,但是在人的短暂一生中,虽然可以暂时得到与拥有许多东西,可等到死亡来临的时候,我们到底能够带走什么?那些东西还不都会随着岁月的流逝而灰飞烟灭吗?所以不如在活着的时候,坦然一些,包容一些,让自己进入一个鸟语花香的天地,多体会体会天的高远和地的广袤。唯有当我们的心被爱和宽容充满的时候,仇恨才会没有容身之地。

Most of us have everything we need - except the inner knowledge that yields absolute happiness.

-- Orgyen Chowang Rinpoche

Thursday, 27 February 2020

Making the Most of Each Day

by Ayya Khema

Now the time has come to go home from this retreat. In order to take as much benefit as possible with us, we need to be aware how to organise our daily lives. If we go back and do exactly as we've always done, within a week everything will be forgotten. Coming to another meditation course in the future, we would have to start all over again.

Who knows whether there is much time in this life. This is the only life the we can take responsibility for. Here we have some control over how we spend our day. The future is non-existent. "I'm going to meditate 'tomorrow'" is foolish. There is no tomorrow, there is only now. When the next life comes, it's this life; actually this is our next life. Finding lots of reasons not to practice today is always possible: the children, the weather, the husband, the wife, the business, the economy, the food, anything will do. What kind of priorities we have is strictly of our own making.

If the future does not exist and the past is completely gone, what do we have left? A very fleeting moment indeed, namely this one. It passes quicker than we can say it. But by using each moment skillfully, we can eventually have moment-to-moment awareness, which results in deep insight.

When getting up in the morning, the first thing would be a determination to be mindful. Becoming aware of opening our eyes, is the beginning of the day, and the beginning of mindfulness. If we have opened our eyes before becoming aware of that, we can close them and start all over again. And from that small incident we will gain an understanding of mindfulness and what it means, then we can let the mind be flooded with gratitude that we have another whole day at our disposal, for one purpose only. Not to cook a better meal, not to buy new things, but to draw nearer to Nibbana. One needs enough wisdom to know how this can be accomplished. The Buddha told us again and again but we are hard of hearing and not totally open to all the instructions. So we need to hear it many times.

Being grateful brings the mind to a state of receptivity and joyful expectation of "what am I going to do with this day?" The first thing would be to sit down to meditate, maybe having to get up a little earlier. Most people die in bed, it's a perfect place for dying, and not such a perfect place for spending an unnecessarily long time. If one has passed the first flush of youth, one doesn't need so much sleep any more.

In most homes, starting at 6 o'clock, there is noise. If that is so, we need to get up early enough to avoid that. That alone gives a feeling of satisfaction, of doing something special to get nearer to Nibbana. If we have a whole hour available for meditation, that's fine; at least let us not practice under half an hour, because the mind needs time to become calm and collected. The morning hour is often the best for many people, because during the night the mind is not bombarded with as many conscious impressions as it is during the day, and is therefore comparatively calm. If we start meditating for half an hour and slowly increase it until we reach a whole hour, that's a good program. Each week we could add ten minutes to the daily practice.

After the meditation we can contemplate the five daily recollections. Now the mind is calm and collected and has more ability to reach an inner depth.

I am of the nature to decay
I have not gone beyond decay

I am of the nature to be diseased
I have not gone beyond disease

I am of the nature to die
I have not gone beyond death

All that is mine, dear, and delightful, will change and vanish

I am the owner of my kamma
I am born of my kamma
I am related to my kamma
I live supported by my kamma
Any kamma I will do, good or evil, that I will inherit.

The exact words do not matter that much. Words are concepts, only the meaning counts; the impermanence of our bodies, of what we think we own, such as people and belongings, and being responsible for our own kamma. Another recollection is about having a loving and kind attitude towards oneself and others and to protect one's own happiness, and wishing to same for all beings:

May I be free from enmity
May I be free from hurtfulness
May I be free from troubles of mind and body
May I be able to protect my own happiness.

Whatever beings there are,
May they be free from enmity

Whatever beings there are,
May they be free from hurtfulness

Whatever beings there are,
May they be free from troubles of mind and body

Whatever beings there are,
May they be able to protect their own happiness.

Having reflected on these two aspects in a meaningful way, we can keep three things in mind. First comes mindfulness, bare attention to the prevailing mode of being. That can be a physical activity without the mind going astray, or it may be a feeling or a thought which has arisen. Paying full attention, not trying to bury it under discursive debris, but knowing exactly what is happening in one's life.

When physical activity does not demand our attention, we can again direct thoughts to the fleeting aspects of our own lives and everyone else's, and reflect what to do in the short time available. When we consider this correctly, kindness, lovingness, and helpfulness arise as priorities. We need not help a lot of people all at once. Even helping one person, maybe someone who lives in the same house, is beneficial. It is the attitude and motivation that count, not the results.

Many people want to do some good, but expect gratitude. That's spiritual materialism, because they are aiming for a form of repayment for their goodness, at least a very nice future life. That too, is equivalent to getting pain, not in the coin of the realm, but through results. Both attitudes could be dropped and the realisation re-established that "this is the only day I have, let me use it to best advantage." "What is most important, if I only have such a short time in this life?" Then we can act out of the understanding that in order to drew nearer to Nibbana, we have to let go of self-concern, egocentricity, self-affirmation, personal likes and dislikes, because otherwise the ego will grow instead of diminish. As we affirm and confirm it more and more throughout this life, it gets bigger and fatter, instead of reducing itself. The more we think about our own importance, our own cares and concerns, the further away we get from Nibbana, and the less chance for peace and happiness arises in our lives.

If someone has a very fat body, and tries to go through a narrow gate, he might knock his/her body against either side and get hurt. If someone has an extremely fat ego, s/he might knock against other people constantly and feel hurt, other people's egos being the gate posts against which one knocks. If we have this kind of experience repeatedly, we get to realise that it has nothing to do with other people, but only concerns ourselves.

If we start each day with these considerations and contemplations, we will tend towards not being overly concerned with ourselves, but trying to think of others. Naturally, there is always the possibility of accidents. Accidents of non-mindfulness, of not being attentive to what we are doing, accidents of impetuous, instinctive replies, or in feeling sorry for ourselves. These occasions have to be seen for what they are, namely accidents, a lack of awareness. There's no blame to be attached to other people or to oneself. We can just see that at that particular moment we were not mindful, and try to remedy it in the next moment. There's only the Arahant, who is fully enlightened, who does not have accidents of that sort.

The Buddha did not teach expression or suppression. But instead he taught that the only emotions which are worthwhile are the four supreme emotions (brahma viharas) and that everything else needs to be noticed and allowed to subside again. If anger arises, it doesn't help to suppress or to express it. We have to know that the anger has arisen, otherwise we'll never be able to change our reactions. We can watch it arising and ceasing. However this is difficult for most people; anger doesn't subside fast enough. Instead we can immediately remember that to express anger means that particular day, which really constitutes our whole life, contains a very unfortunate occurrence, and therefore we can try to substitute. It is much easier to substitute one emotion for another than to drop one altogether. Dropping means a deliberate action of letting go. As we have learned in meditation, we can substitute discursive thinking with attention on the breath; in daily living we substitute the unwholesome with the wholesome.

Usually our anger arises towards other people. It's not so important to us what animals do, nor what people do whom we don't know. Usually we are concerned with those whom we know and who are near to us. But since that is so we must also be familiar with some very good qualities of these people. Instead of dwelling upon any negative action of that person, we can put our attention on something pleasant about them. Even though they may have just used words which we didn't like, at other times they have said things which were fine. They have done good deeds, and have shown love and compassion. It is a matter of changing one's focus of attention, just as we learn to do in meditation. Until this becomes very habitual in meditation, it will be difficult in daily life, but diligent practice makes it happen. We practice in spite of any difficulty. If we remove our attention from one thing and put it somewhere else, that's all we need to work with. We will be protecting ourselves from making bad kamma and spoiling our whole day. We may not have another day.

The immediate resultants of all our thoughts, speech and action are quite apparent. If we keep our attention focused, we will know that wholesome emotions and thoughts bring peace and happiness, whereas unwholesome ones bring the opposite. Only a fool makes him/herself deliberately unhappy. Since we're not fools, we'll try to eliminate all unwholesomeness in our thinking and emotions and try to substitute with the wholesome. All of us are looking for just one thing, and that is happiness. Unhappiness can arise only through our own ideas and reactions.

We are the makers of our own happiness and unhappiness and we can learn to have control over that. The better the meditation becomes, the easier it will be, because the mind needs muscle power to do this. A distracted mind has no strength, no power. We cannot expect perfect results overnight, but we can keep practising. If we look back after having practised for some time we will see a change. If we look back after only one or two days, we may not find anything new within. It is like growing vegetables. If we put seeds in the ground and dig them up the next day, all we will find is a seed. But if we tend the seeds and wait some time we will find a sprout or a plant. It's no use checking from moment to moment, but it is helpful to check the past and see the changes taking place.

At the end of each day it can be a good practice to make a balance-sheet, possibly even in writing. Any good shop-keeper will check out his merchandise at the end of the day and see which one was well accepted by the customers and which stayed on the shelves. He will not re-order the shelf items but only the merchandise that sold well. We can check our actions and reactions during the day, and can see which ones were conductive to happiness for ourselves and others and which ones were rejected. We do not re-order the latter for the next day, but just let them perish on the shelf. If we do that night after night, we will always find the same actions accepted or rejected. Kindness, warmth, interest in others, helpfulness, concern and care are always accepted. Self-interest, dislike, rejection, arguments, jealousy are always rejected. Just for one single day, we can write down all our actions on the credit or debit side, whether happiness-producing or not. As we do that, we will find the same reactions to the same stimuli over and over again. This balance sheet will give a strong impetus to stop the pre-programmed unwholesome reactions. We have used them for years and lifetimes on end, and they have always produced unhappiness. If we can check them out in writing or see them clearly in our minds, we will surely try to change.

Starting the day with the determination to be mindful, contemplating the daily recollections, realising that this is the only day we have and using it most skillfully, and then checking it out in the evening on the balance sheet, will give us a whole lifetime in one day. If this is done carefully and habitually, the next day, which is our next life, has the advantageous results. If we've had a day of arguments, dislikes, worries, fears and anxiety, the next day will be similar. But if we have had a day of loving-kindness, helpfulness and concern for others, we'll wake up with those same modes of being. Our last thought at night will become the first one in the morning. The kamma we inherit shows up the next day, we don't need to wait for another lifetime. That's too nebulous. We do it now, and see results the next day.

Before going to sleep it's useful to practice loving-kindness meditation. Having done that as the very last thing at night, it will be in one's mind first thing in the morning. The Buddha's words about loving-kindness were: "One goes to sleep happily, one dreams no evil dreams, and one wakes happily." What more can one ask? Applying the same principles day after day, there is no reason why our lives should not be harmonious. That way we're making the most of each day of our lives. If we don't do it, nobody else will. No other person is interested in making the most of each day of our lives. Everyone is interested in making the most of their own lives. We cannot rely on anyone else for our own happiness.

As far as our meditation practice is concerned, we must not allow it to slide. Whenever that happens one has to start all over again. If one keeps doing it every day, one can at least keep the standard attained in the retreat, possibly improve on it. Just like an athlete, who stops training has to start all over again, in the same way the mind needs discipline and attention, because it is the master of the inner household.

There is nothing that can give us any direction except our own mind. We need to give it the possibility to relax, to stop thinking for a little while, to have a moment of peace and quiet, so that it can renew itself. Without that renewal of energy, it decays just the same as everything else does. If the mind is taken care of, it will take care of us.

This is a sketch of how to use one's day to day activity and practice. We must never think that Dhamma is for meditation courses or special days: it is rather a way of life, where we do not forget the impermanence and unsatisfactoriness of the world. We realise these truths within our own heart, just thinking about them is useless. If we practice every day in this way, we will find relief and release from our cares and worries because these are always connected with the world. The Dhamma transcends the world.

Non-conceptual compassion and the primordial nature of emptiness are inseparable in the nature of simplicity. You should understand all dharmas like this. 

-- Marpa

Wednesday, 26 February 2020

過去、未來和現在

慧律法师

今天,我們所要談的是,佛陀告訴我們那些真理。
  
佛陀說:「人無知,喜歡回憶過去,讓過去的記憶來動搖我們的現在。」我們一直回想過去,過去的創傷、痛苦,或者快樂、榮耀都一直殘存在記憶裏,那是一種執著。我們盼望未來,可是我們的未來又不可知!所以佛陀說:「掌握現在,你就有永恆。」要相信這句話,你要掌握現在,你才有永恆。

接受批評
  
人很奇怪,當你有錢的時候,人家要批評你,沒有錢的時候,別人也要批評你。有成就時人家要批評你,失敗了,別人還是要批評你。
  
佛陀說:「世間上沒有一個不曾被批評過的。」所以大家要把逆境當做自然,每一個人都要接受批評。你從這個角度看,在這個世間,別人的恭敬、他人的毀謗、榮耀羞辱、對錯是非等事,是沒有什麼標準的。
  
所以,我們要掌握時間的每一個動點,要八風吹不動,不論利、衰、毀、譽、稱、譏、苦、樂的境界現前,我們每一分每一秒都要過得很平靜、很安詳,心地很自在、很喜悅。

錯誤的追求
  
佛陀再次的告訴我們:「人之所以痛苦,在於追求錯誤的東西。」
  
人因為不明瞭事理,所以很痛苦的過日子。其實並沒有人讓他痛苦,是自己使自己痛苦。你們摸摸良心,誰讓你痛苦?只有當你自己幹了一年壞事,你自己要負因果,自己的內心在自責,令自己痛苦。所以說:「人之所以痛苦,在於追求錯誤的東西。」
  
我們追求錢,錢很重要,我也需要錢,否則要如何坐飛機來。但是錢只有相對的重要性,不是絕對的重要。當你需要錢時,錢很重要,當你有很多錢,放在銀行,那只是一個數目而已,並沒有代表錢是絕對性的需要。
  
如果說你煩惱重、脾氣壞,雖然有錢,仍然是很煩惱。你以為歌星、影星就活得很快樂嗎?不見得。你以為政治人物、社會名流,就很幸福嗎?不一定,他們也有痛苦的一面。人之所以痛苦是拼命的追求錢,拼命追求名,拼命追求色,拼命為了自己的吃住而勞苦奔波。
  
禪宗的宗師說:「名、利、色三關,賺得凡夫團團轉。」賺,賺錢的賺,其實我們根本不是在賺錢,我們是被錢賺,錢賺走了青春,錢賺走了美貌,錢賺走了我們的時間,錢賺走了我們的生命。與其說我們在賺錢,不如說我們被錢所賺。佛陀告訴我們覺悟吧!新加坡的佛友們,要覺悟啊!

Always watch your mind. Check if your mind is still like what it used to be. Any progress? Or getting any worse? Never forget to watch your mind!

-- Yangthang Rinpoche

Tuesday, 25 February 2020

Irreversible Confidence

by Khandro Rinpoche

Irreversible confidence comes from recognising and being sure of the presence of our fundamental ground. With growing confidence, we are no longer distracted by laziness, disappointments, sadness, enthusiasm, and so on. We no longer have to succumb to ignorance — or aggression, attachment, selfishness, or habitual tendencies such as irritation, jealousy, or aggravation. Recognising our core essence of enlightenment, we appreciate the preciousness of our existence.

When we underestimate our human existence, tendencies such as laziness arise. With laziness, we remain "as we were," distracted and stuck in habitual patterns. We could say that any tendency to distraction impedes the arising of buddhanature — again, due to not appreciating the preciousness of each moment. To conquer these distractions, contemplate the preciousness of human existence.

Appreciating one's life generates a courageous heart and a courageous mind. Knowing that we could become completely free and lead others to freedom from endless and intolerable suffering, we can live with a sense of urgency and complete awareness — which brings confidence and joy and even greater appreciation of our life and potential. Then we can encounter moments of depression or disappointment without succumbing to hopes and fears based on emotions, concepts, or habitual tendencies. And we can conquer discursive thoughts of ordinariness, weakness, or inadequacy - recognising them as mere tricks of the mind.

Of course, mind will put up a fierce fight when it comes to ignorance and habitual patterns. In its struggle to preserve its identity and territory, it will come up with all sorts of non appreciation of our fundamental true nature and highlight all our negative characteristics and tendencies. One way that ignorance gains a victory over our wisdom mind is by highlighting our negative tendencies through self-criticism.

With all our study and practice, we may still find it difficult to encourage ourselves on the path. Instead we criticise ourselves and feel inadequate or disappointed in our lack of awareness, our gender bias, or our inability to keep vows and precepts. When we criticise ourselves, ignorance demonstrates its tendencies.We may assume that by being self-critical we're actually doing something good. Of course, it is important to recognise faults and overcome negative tendencies, but we often sink into the ignorance of criticising ourselves without seeing our positive qualities. If we look carefully, we will see there are far more positive qualities than negative tendencies.

Because of our inherent buddhanature, our positive qualities the very ground from which everything arises — are stronger and more numerous than our negativities. But because of habitual mind, we focus on the bleakness of our ignorance and negative qualities. We don't see ourselves as genuinely qualified and worthy vessels for the teachings. Eventually this negativity becomes so strong that it completely covers up anything bright, luminous, and genuinely good arising from our inherently pure nature. The antidote to this pessimism and self-criticism is to understand the preciousness of human existence. It's essential to strengthen the mind in this way.

The Compassionate Heart of the Enlightened Mind, it is the supreme elixir that overcomes the sovereignty of death. It is the inexhaustible treasure that eliminates poverty in the world. It is the supreme medicine that quells the world’s disease. It is the tree that shelters all beings wandering and tired on the path of conditioned existence. It is the universal bridge that leads to freedom from unhappy states of birth. It is the dawning moon of the mind that dispels the torment of disturbing conceptions. It is the great sun that finally removes the misty ignorance of the world.

-- Shantideva

Monday, 24 February 2020

在三界火宅中化热恼得清凉

宽运法师

由于受到吹袭台湾超强热带气旋的影响,这两天香港气温上升至入夏以来最高点,14区空气污浊爆表,昨天35度,今天37度(7月9日);盛夏毒暑,热恼难耐,感觉就好像进入了一间着火的房子——「火宅」里一样;试问谁人不想快快地逃离?

这不禁令人想起了佛经中的一首偈:「三界无安,犹如火宅;众苦充满,甚可怖畏。」(《法华经卷二。譬喻品》)意思就是说,我们所处的、所赖以生存的环境,就像住在被烈火吞噬的火它中,充满各种难以忍受的苦楚,情状十分恐怖,令人畏惧。其中常有生、老、病、死等种种忧患,像烧得炽热、旺盛的火焰一般,没有片刻止息的时候。实在非常恐怖可怕。但是由于众生没有智慧,所以毫无警觉,每天生活在其中,醉生梦死,以苦为乐。

三界无安 犹如火宅

何谓「三界」?「三界」,是迷妄的有情众生,在生灭变化中流转,依其体验、感受和认识所分的三个阶级或范畴,分别为欲界、色界、无色界。「欲界」是五欲或俗语所谓七情六欲的层次;色界是禅定的层次,无色界则是只有自我执着,而没有意识活动的深定层次。欲界耽恋于官能的享受和追求;色界执着于生命的贪恋及对自我价值的追求;无色界已没有对于身心的贪恋和爱惜,心理活动已止息,但仍有潜在的自我中心意识,维系着对于「我」的执着。

以佛法来说,三界都是水深火热的环境。三界的果报虽然各有优劣、苦乐等差别,但是都属于「迷界」,难脱生死轮回之苦,因此为圣者所厌弃。若以一般人的认知,所谓眼不见为净,耳不闻为净;若到了色界、无色界的程度,已经是安乐的境界了,为什么还说是火宅?因为住在「定」中的人,人间的种种烦恼、社会的困扰,自然的灾害等等,都不会影响到他,好像已得到了解脱。但事实上,如果「我」执仍在,出定之后,仍在欲界,仍然还会受到人间种种恶劣环境的干扰,仍然有着水深火热似的烦恼。故云:「三界无安,犹如火宅。」

「火宅」就是失火的房子,充满了危险恐怖,但有幼儿、愚人及盲人,身陷火宅中,不知自己很快即将有丧失宝贵生命的危险。

《法华经》卷二〈譬喻品〉中所说的「火宅喻」里面说到:

从前有一个大长者,财富无量,一日,他的宅舍起了大火,长者忙着救火,但儿子们却在火宅内玩耍嬉戏,既不知也不觉;长者为救诸子出离火宅,于是便用种种的方便,在火宅外大声疾呼,叫唤孩子们速离险地。可是他们依旧充耳不闻、视若无睹,毫无警觉之心。为了劝诱这些无知的孩子们,出离火宅,就告诉他们说屋外有他们最欢喜坐的车子,有羊车、鹿车及牛车;等他们奔离火宅之后,长者会各赐一辆大白牛车。贪玩的孩子听说有更新鲜、有趣的玩意,这才冲出火宅,免于被大火吞没。

此譬喻中,「火」,比喻五浊、八苦等;「宅」,比喻三界;指出三界的众生为五浊、八苦所逼迫而不自知,不得安稳,犹如大宅被火所烧,而不能安居。羊车、鹿车、牛车,是藉以譬喻声闻乘、缘觉乘、佛乘这三乘解脱之法。儿子比喻众生,长者比喻佛。

出离五浊 勤求解脱

因此,三界即是「五浊恶世」;「五浊」又称「五滓」。据《悲华经》卷五、《法苑珠林》卷九十八的说法,五浊即指:

(一)劫浊,减劫中,人寿减至三十岁时饥馑灾起,减至二十岁时疾疫灾起,减至十岁时刀兵灾起,世界众生无不被害。因此,世界即是成住、坏、空,里面并不究竟,人在其中也不究竟。

(二)见浊,正法已灭,像法渐起,邪法转生,邪见增盛,使人不修善道。

(三)烦恼浊,众生多诸爱欲,悭贪斗诤,谄曲虚诳,摄受邪法而恼乱心神,心不能安定。

(四)众生浊,又作有情浊。众生多诸弊恶,有非常多的烦恼、欲望,不孝敬父母尊长,不畏恶业果报,不作功德,不修慧施、斋法,不持禁戒等。如是带来诸多的烦恼。

(五)命浊,又作寿浊。往古之世,人寿八万岁,今时以恶业增加,人寿转减,故寿命短促,百岁者稀。人的寿命减短,烦恼增多,所以世界称为「五浊恶世」;五浊之中,以劫浊为总,以其余四浊为别。四浊中又以见浊、烦恼浊二者为浊之自体,而成众生浊与命浊二者。

所以说,「众苦充满,甚可怖畏。」因为三界迷苦的领域有如大海的无边无际,因此三界又称苦界、苦海。一般常说的「苦海无边,回头是岸」,便是劝人出离三界,勤求解脱涅盘之乐。是故同经〈化城喻品〉中又说:「能于三界狱,勉出诸众生。」意思是劝导三界的有情众生,切莫以三界为安,当勤求解脱,早日出离。

文殊菩萨的故事——本来清凉

那么,我们要怎样才能获得真正的解脱与清凉?

唐朝有一位相国裴休,字公美,是河东人氏。他的学问极为渊博,通诸子百家之学,曾参学于黄檗禅师,复饱经圭峰禅师的教化,退隐以后,遂专志禅学,默契无生之理。

据传,裴相国于孩提时,曾遇到一位奇异的僧人,对他说道:

「到清凉寺来,我会送你三颗舍利子,并有一封简书要留给你。」

那封信是用天竺文字写的,没有人懂得其中的意思,裴休就把它随手放在竹筐子里面。

后来他长大成人了并做了官,参学于黄檗、圭峰两位禅门大德,乃志心于佛道,对于世上的功名利碌看得很淡,而且时时想要脱离尘缘俗网。有一天,他在整理旧信的时候,无意间发现了当年这封旧书简,于是就呈递给了圭峰禅师。

圭峰禅师令寺中的印度僧人翻译为汉文,成一首偈。

偈曰:「大士涉俗,小士真居,欲求佛道,岂离红尘?」

裴休看了偈文,心中暗喜,原来志求佛道并不一定要绝弃尘累啊!于是他打消了抛弃功名的念头,向道之心反而较从前更为热切。

他曾为圆觉经作序,提及:「血气之属必有知,凡有知者必同体。

所谓真净明妙,虚彻灵通,卓然而独存者也。」从文字中,可知他的卓越见解与睿智。

广德年间,河东节度使李诜奉旨进谒五台山请观国师入京,

李诜回到京城以后,裴休问他:「节度使!您奉了圣旨作清凉山之游,此行快乐吗?」

「到处都是风沙,有什么快乐可言的呢?我实在是受到禅家的虚诞不实拖累了啊!我听说清凉山是圣者文殊大士驻锡之处,风火不侵,到了那儿,热恼痛苦都会消除的。可是我五月间到达清凉山以后,猛烈的风沙飞扬着,暑热扑身,使得我从仆的儿子患热症死了,而山里面的僧人们,又常常殴打诤讼,像这样的过咎,真是数也数不清!哪里像传言中所说的那么清凉无恼呢?」李诜答道。

裴休马上对他说:「错了!您这番话错了!您怀着热恼的心,想入清凉之境,就好比披上了麻袋想要越过火堆一样,怎会不燃火上身呢?须知所谓清凉的境界,不在外有,不离当下所处的地方,也不是任何外在之物所能遮挡得住的,非冷非热,无形无碍,风吹不入,雨淋不湿,不是用眼可见、用耳可听闻的。所以说,真正的清凉,劫火不能烧,毘岚之风也不能坏,无热复无灾,就是清凉的境界。这实在不是分别思量所能契入的啊!而您持着『有』的心来到了清凉山,

就好像蚊子去叮铁牛,苍蝇投入火堆,这不是很可悲的事吗?」

听了裴休用心良苦的一番说话以后,李诜问道:

「那么我还能在清凉山见到文殊菩萨吗?」

「文殊就是大智,智慧广大,能从生死烦恼此岸到达清凉涅盘彼岸,证得离心念的妙智,也只有离开一切妄念的智慧,才可契入文殊大士的境界。所谓大智光明,即是清凉不变,清凉不变,也是大智光明,并不是有两样不同的东西。您想文殊进入您的心:当离心意识,绝修证之路,不要以眼入,乃至不要以意入,要以无生入(有生即有灭、生灭是分别),无相入,无我入,无人入,无一人,无多人,无间入,无人入。这样子契入,即使银山铁壁,都可穿透无碍,到了妄心去尽,求个人的人,也了不可得(已无个人的我执),到了这个地步,才知清凉本具,不是今天才契入的啊!」

李诜听了以后,恍然大悟地说道:「现在听了您这一番话,我心里面顿时觉得清凉无比了哩。」于是辞谢而退。

结语

由此可见,一切境界,出于心造,源于心受。心境烦恼,便处于火宅之中;心境清凉,便生于佛国净土。境随心转,环境就没有一定的安危;若是心随境转,则人心浮动,环境便会混乱,便成三界火宅;若是人心安定,环境自然太平,那么处处都能见到世外桃源。

因此,佛法教我们要「以清净心看世界,以欢喜心过生活」;清净心,即无垢无染、无贪无瞋、无痴无恼、无怨无忧的清凉自在、纯净喜悦的心。「拥有清净心的人,失意事来能治之以忍,快心事来能视之以淡,荣宠事来能置之以让,怨恨事来能安之以受,烦乱事来能处之以静,忧悲事来能平之以稳。」以清净心看世界,有大因缘时,就做点大事;有小因缘时,就做点小事;没有因缘时,就做自己的事。生活中其实没啥事,一辈子也就这回事。如此,定能随遇而安,随缘自在。

「以欢喜心过生活」,「欢喜心」就是懂得转苦为乐;人生的境遇不可预料,心智却可以转化外在的环境;心有正念,自然一切欢喜;欢喜心是积极融入外境,保持对世界充满希望的活泼心情,时时能发射和接受幸福的信号。因此,有了「清净心」和「欢喜心」,自然能够化除世间种种热恼,平安自在,从而获得清闲、清净与清凉!

The most important thing is practice in daily life; then you can know gradually the true value of religion. Doctrine is not meant for mere knowledge, but for the improvement of our minds. In order to do that, it must be part of our life. If you put religious doctrine in a building and when you leave the building depart from the practices, you cannot gain its value. 

-- His Holiness the 14th  Dalai Lama

Sunday, 23 February 2020

Thich Nhat Hanh: Be Beautiful, Be Yourself

by Andrea Miller

After Thich Nhat Hanh’s 2011 Vancouver retreat wrapped up, two nuns ushered me into the kitchen/living room portion of a student residence at the University of British Columbia. Inside — except for the pot of orchids on the table — it was all earthy brown: Thich Nhat Hanh, in his brown robes, sipped from a clear cup of golden brown tea, while other brown-robed monastics gathered on the brown sofa and floor. Sister Chan Khong introduced me to Thay, then, smiling, said what a surprise I’d been for them. When I’d requested this interview, via email, they hadn’t realised that “Andrea Miller” was a woman’s name, so they’d assumed I was a man, an older one at that. In the end, I was tickled to be something of a surprise. After all, at so many points during the interview, I was the surprised party. On life after death, on the pleasures of sitting, on being, not doing — Thich Nhat Hanh gave answers I wasn’t expecting. Always fresh, always wise, here is what he had to say. -Andrea Miller

It is very painful when someone we love has serious difficulties, such as mental illness, post-traumatic stress disorder, or addiction. Sometimes it feels like their problems are so big that we can’t really help them and so we may want to retreat from them and their problems. At other times, we try to help, and then get consumed by the other person’s struggles. What can we do to help in these difficult situations without getting overwhelmed?

When you feel overwhelmed, you’re trying too hard. That kind of energy does not help the other person and it does not help you. You should not be too eager to help right away. There are two things: to be and to do. Don’t think too much about to do — to be is first. To be peace. To be joy. To be happiness. And then to do joy, to do happiness — on the basis of being. So first you have to focus on the practice of being. Being fresh. Being peaceful. Being attentive. Being generous. Being compassionate. This is the basic practice. It’s like if the other person is sitting at the foot of a tree. The tree does not do anything, but the tree is fresh and alive. When you are like that tree, sending out waves of freshness, you help to calm down the suffering in the other person.

Your presence should be pleasant, it should be calm, and you should be there for him or her. That is a lot already. When children like to come and sit close to you, it’s not because you have a lot of cookies to give, but because sitting close to you is nice, it’s refreshing. So sit next to the person who is suffering and try your best to be your best — pleasant, attentive, fresh.

If I’m feeling a very difficult emotion, maybe anger, or deep sadness, and I try to focus on my breath, isn’t that a way of avoiding my emotions?

Usually people lose themselves in a strong emotion and become overwhelmed. That is not the way to handle emotion, because when that happens you are a victim of emotion. In order not to become a victim, breathe and retain your calm, and you will experience the insight that an emotion is only an emotion, nothing more. This insight is very important, because then you are no longer afraid. You are calm, you are not trying to run away, and you can deal better with emotion. Your breath is you, and you need alliance with your breath to be more of yourself, to be stronger. Then you can handle your emotion better. You do not try to forget your emotion; instead you try to be more of yourself, so that you are solid enough to deal with it.

It was heartwarming to see so many children at the retreat.

I feel comfortable with children. I have never been cut off from the younger generation. Whether they are monastic or lay, communication is always “on” with the younger generation. That is one of the elements of my happiness.

Sometimes young mothers bring their children into the meditation hall because they don’t want to miss the dharma talk. That’s very nourishing for everyone. The babies don’t know what’s happening, but they feel the peaceful atmosphere. That energy of peace is rare in society — it’s very rare to have fifteen hundred people sitting and producing mindfulness and peace. If you offer children a glimpse of peace and love, even if they are very small and they don’t know language yet, that does not mean that they don’t feel it. Try to imagine a young mother feeding her baby during the retreat. She is listening to the dharma, she’s consuming the dharma, and the baby is consuming both the milk and the dharma at the same time. It’s very beautiful.

Later on, when the children encounter the cruelty in the world, they will remember that there was a time when they had the opportunity to encounter the energy of peace. When a sangha, a Buddhist community, comes together and practices, it can always produce that kind of peaceful energy, and young people can experience it and start planting the seeds for the future. Engaged Buddhism tries to bring this peaceful energy into many different situations. In schools, in hospitals, in town halls, in congress, the practice of mindful breathing is possible.

Is living in the present moment at odds with enjoying the media? Can we be mindful and still enjoy the internet and TV and movies and books?

There are good books and movies that you can enjoy. That’s okay — it’s good to enjoy them. But sometimes the quality of the film or book is not good at all, yet you don’t turn it off because if you do, you will have to go back and experience the suffering inside you. That is the practice of many people in our society. Many people cannot be with themselves. They have pain, sorrow, or worries inside, and they read or watch or listen to cover this up, to run away from themselves.

Consuming media like that is just running away and it doesn’t have a lasting effect. You can forget your suffering for some time, but eventually you have to go back to yourself. The Buddha recommended that we should not try to run away from ourselves, but learn to take good care of ourselves and transform our suffering.

What would you say to someone who finds sitting meditation painful and difficult and they struggle to do it?

Don’t do it anymore.

Really?

Yes, yes. If you don’t find it pleasant to sit, don’t sit. You have to learn the correct spirit of sitting. If you make a lot of effort when you sit, you become tense and that creates pain all over your body. Sitting should be pleasant. When you turn on the television in your living room, you can sit for hours without suffering. Yet when you sit for meditation, you suffer. Why? Because you struggle. You want to succeed in your meditation, and so you fight. When you are watching television you don’t fight. You have to learn how to sit without fighting. If you know how to sit like that, sitting is very pleasant.

When Nelson Mandela visited France once, a journalist asked him what he liked to do the most. He said that because he was so busy, what he liked to do the most was just to sit and do nothing. Because to sit and to do nothing is a pleasure — you restore yourself. That’s why the Buddha described it as like sitting on a lotus flower. When you’re sitting, you feel light, you feel fresh, you feel free. And if you don’t feel that when you sit, then sitting has become a kind of hard labour.

Sometimes if you don’t have enough sleep or you have a cold or something, maybe sitting is not as pleasant as you’d wish. But if you are feeling normal, experiencing the pleasure of sitting is always possible. The problem isn’t to sit or not to sit, but how to sit. How to sit so that you can make the most of it — otherwise you’re wasting your time.

You put a lot more emphasis on enjoyment — on enjoying breathing, sitting, walking, enjoying life altogether — than many other Buddhist teachers do.

In the teachings of the Buddha, ease and joy are elements of enlightenment. In life, there’s a lot of suffering. Why do you have to suffer more practicing Buddhism? You practice Buddhism in order to suffer less, right? The Buddha is a happy person. When the Buddha sits, he sits happily, and when he walks, he walks happily. Why do I want to do it differently from the Buddha? Maybe people are afraid that others might say, “You are not very serious in your practice. You smile, you laugh, you are having a good time. To practice seriously you have to be very grim, very serious.” Maybe the people who want to get more donations put it like that — to leave the impression they practice more seriously than other people. Take the practice of sitting all night. You aren’t allowed to rest and you think that is intensive practice, but you suffer all night and drink coffee in order to stay awake. That’s nonsense. It’s the quality of the sitting that can help you transform, not sitting a lot and suffering while you do. Sitting and walking meditation are for enjoying, and also for looking deeply and developing insight. That insight can liberate us from fear, anger, and despair.

I really enjoyed the outdoor walking meditation we did on this retreat.

Usually in the Buddhist tradition, you sit, and then you stand up and do slow walking in the meditation hall, and then you sit again. We don’t do that here. Instead, we do outdoor walking. That practice is helpful because you can apply it in your daily life. You walk normally — not too slowly — so you don’t look like you’re practising and people see you as normal. And then when you go home, when you’re going from the parking lot to your office, you can enjoy walking.

The basic practice is how to enjoy — how to enjoy walking and sitting and eating and showering. It’s possible to enjoy every one, but our society is organised in such a way that we don’t have time to enjoy. We have to do everything too quickly.

What do you think makes someone a Buddhist?

A person may not be called a Buddhist, but he can be more Buddhist than a person who is. Buddhism is made of mindfulness, concentration, and insight. If you have these things, you are a Buddhist. If you don’t, you aren’t a Buddhist. When you look at a person and you see that she is mindful, she is compassionate, she is understanding, and she has insight, then you know that she is a Buddhist. But even if she’s a nun and she does not have these energies and qualities, she has only the appearance of a Buddhist, not the content of a Buddhist.

Can a ceremony make someone a Buddhist?

No, it’s not by ceremony that you become a Buddhist. It is by committing to practice. Buddhists get caught in a lot of rituals and ceremonies, but the Buddha does not like that. In the sutras, specifically in the teaching given by the Buddha right after his enlightenment, he said that we should be free from rituals. You do not get enlightenment or liberation just because you perform rituals, but people have made Buddhism heavily ritualistic. We are not nice to the Buddha.

Do you have to believe in reincarnation to be a Buddhist?

Reincarnation means there is a soul that goes out of your body and enters another body. That is a very popular, very wrong notion of continuation in Buddhism. If you think that there is a soul, a self, that inhabits a body, and that goes out when the body disintegrates and takes another form, that is not Buddhism.

When you look into a person, you see five skandhas, or elements: form, feelings, perceptions, mental formations, and consciousness. There is no soul, no self, outside of these five, so when the five elements go to dissolution, the karma, the actions, that you have performed in your lifetime is your continuation. What you have done and thought is still there as energy. You don’t need a soul, or a self, in order to continue.

It’s like a cloud. Even when the cloud is not there, it continues always as snow or rain. The cloud does not need to have a soul in order to continue. There’s no beginning and no end. You don’t need to wait until the total dissolution of this body to continue — you continue in every moment. Suppose I transmit my energy to hundreds of people; then they continue me. If you look at them and you see me, well, you have seen me. If you think that I am only this [points to himself], then you have not seen me. But when you see me in my speech and my actions, you see that they continue me. When you look at my disciples, my students, my books, and my friends, you see my continuation. I will never die. There is a dissolution of this body, but that does not mean my death. I continue, always.

That is true of all of us. You are more than just this body because the five skandhas are always producing energy. That is called karma or action. But there is no actor — you don’t need an actor. Action is good enough. This can be understood in terms of quantum physics. Mass and energy, and force and matter — they are not two separate things. They are the same.

What can we do about the high level of materialism in our culture?

You can set up an environment where people live simply and happily, and invite others to come and observe. That is the only thing that will convince them to abandon their materialistic idea of happiness. They think that only when you have a lot to consume can you be happy, but many are very rich without being happy at all. And there are those who consume much less, but who are happier.

We need to demonstrate that living simply with a practice of the dharma can be very fulfilling, because until people see it and experience it, they cannot be convinced. In Plum Village, we laugh all day long, yet not one of us has a private bank account. Not one of us has a private car or a private telephone. We only eat vegetarian food. But we don’t suffer because we don’t eat eggs or meat. In fact, we are happier because we know that we are not eating living beings and we are protecting the planet. That brings a lot of joy. We are fortunate to be able to live like that, to eat like that.

There is a belief that unless you have a lot of money, unless you hold a high position in society, you cannot be truly happy. It is hard to let go of that belief until you see the truth that happiness is possible in another way. Seeing that will make the future possible for our children. So I think in Buddhist circles we have to reorganise so that we can show people a way of living happily based on mutual understanding, not materialism. Just a dharma talk isn’t enough, because a dharma talk is just a talk. Only when people see such an unmaterialistic community, when they see such a way of life, will they be convinced.

If you do not get a prudent companion who (is fit) to live with you, who behaves well and is wise, then like a king who leaves a conquered kingdom, you should live alone as an elephant does in the elephant forest.

-- The Buddha

Saturday, 22 February 2020

慈心

嘎玛仁波切

导语:慈心,是希望所有众生得到快乐。慈悲无界,慈心会对治我们的嗔恨心,能够让我们得到大圆镜智以及报身佛。我们要经常发出慈心:愿一切众生具足乐及乐因。

大乘佛教徒必须具备强大的菩提心,希望所有的众生,早日脱离轮回之苦,早日成佛,要拥有这种大心量,菩提心的基础,就是建立在四无量心上。我们看到四臂观音长了四个手,他不是怪物,也不是莫名其妙长了四个手,而是要告诉我们:你想要像我这样变成菩萨,先要拥有菩萨的心。菩萨的心,最基础的就是:慈、悲、喜、舍四无量心。

慈心,是希望所有众生得到快乐。谁会经常这样想?天下的母亲。一位慈悲的母亲,不管她的儿女对她是好是坏,她永远是不变的慈悲。除非她自己往生了,要不然对儿女会一辈子牵挂。从怀孕前、怀孕中就一直牵挂,孩子生出来后,伴随着他长大成人,学业、恋爱、结婚、生小孩,总是牵挂,期待孩子越来越好。在母亲眼中,孩子永远是孩子,害怕他们受到伤害,遇到困难、痛苦与挫折,并想方设法帮孩子避免一切烦恼。

当儿女的往往最不能理解的就是母亲的牵挂,甚至会觉得她们这样招人讨厌,但是当你从一位母亲的慈心出发,这种希望孩子越来越好,一直快乐不要受伤害的心态,就是我们讲的慈悲心的重要基础。

慈心,能调伏嗔恨心。慈悲的母亲,对儿女就算有失望、绝望,也从不会放弃她的慈心,不会放弃儿女,她们恨不得将自己的棺材本也省下,全部留给儿女。这样的慈母,会对自己的儿女产生嗔恨心吗?不会。最多是嘴巴上发发牢骚而已。

慈心能对治嗔恨。要调伏嗔恨心,就要学着将所有一切众生,当成自己的孩子,学习一位慈祥的母亲对儿女的慈怀心态,那众生就没有不入眼的了。也许你曾看这个人顺眼,看那个人不顺眼,甚至很多人根本没惹你,你看到他就觉得讨厌。这是我们与生俱来的分别心,所谓的对亲人、仇人、非亲人和非仇人的分别心。当你能够一视同仁地对一切众生产生慈心之时,你就没有敌人了。

你对儿女会产生仇敌的心态吗?会产生强大的嗔恨吗?不会。当你有看不顺眼的人,当这个人让你生气的时候,你就当他是你的儿女,就不会产生嗔恨心了。慈心最大的功能,就是调伏我们的嗔恨,从此你看到谁都会觉得很欢喜。

心中有慈心的人,看谁都高兴,这并不是因为别人都做得好,而是他自己修得好。就像佛印大师看苏东坡是一尊佛,而苏东坡看佛印大师是一坨屎一样。心中有佛,看人是佛;心中有屎,看人就是屎了。如果你一天到晚看这个不顺眼,看那个不顺眼,就表示你心中真的有一驼大屎在那儿。当一个人具备了慈心,没有了嗔恨心,因为心善,见到所有人都会感到面善,智慧也就增长了,慈心的本质就是空性。

我们有个老弟子,一天到晚跟我讲,“上师,我好高兴、好欢喜。”有些人却问我,“这个人是不是有精神病,怎么一天到晚说好高兴、好欢喜。”当他心中有慈心的时候,他看所有人都很顺眼,有这种欢喜心的人,别人与他相处久了,会觉得特别舒适,越看这个人越顺眼,这就是慈心的感染力。

具有慈心之人,他的辨知能力并没有消失,他不树敌,没有敌人,但好人和坏人他分得清清楚楚,只是心中没有恶意,因此看到的都是善意。所以,佛陀看众生都是佛,我们看众生都是一身毛病,我们跟佛陀的一个差距就在这儿。

辩知一切的能力没有消失,内心又充满欢喜,这叫大圆境智。镜子光亮亮的在那儿,你把好看的脸、不好看的脸放过去,谁看镜子,镜子都不会有烦恼。猪照镜子,它没烦恼;蛇照镜子,它也没烦恼,但是从镜子里会透出猪的长相、蛇的长相、人的长相,了了分明又如如不动,最后会成就大圆镜智,一切庄严将在眼前显现。

带着慈心的人,就像菩萨们,无论谁看菩萨都觉得顺眼,哪怕是西方人或其他不信佛的人,看到释迦牟尼佛、观音菩萨等庄严的法相,也想把它放在家里当装饰品,每天看着高兴。如果他看着就不高兴,还会愿意把佛菩萨放在客厅吗?

总之,慈悲无界,慈心会对治我们的嗔恨心,能够让我们得到大圆镜智以及报身佛。报身佛有三十二大丈夫相,八十种随好,比如我们常讲的“八吉祥”就是佛身上纹路。我们要经常发出慈心:愿一切众生具足乐及乐因。

The whole thing, so many practices, all come down to live the daily life with bodhicitta motivation to put all the effort in that whatever you do. This way your life doesn’t get wasted and it becomes full of joy and happiness, with no regrets later, especially when you die and you can die with a smile outside and a smile in the heart. 

-- Lama Zopa Rinpoche